Article Advise

submitted: Jul 17th 2008 | by: DebbieThomas | Total views: 1 | Word Count: 815 | |

In Part 1 of this article we discussed why most affirmations end up on your desk gathering dust or in the waste basket. It stands to reason that what you put your attention on most of the time is what you will get. That's the main theme of the Law of Attraction as made widely known in the Secret. So, this makes a lot of sense and we get excited and write a long laundry list of affirmations about what we want to see happen in our lives. I know I did. I wanted to lose weight, I wanted to get along better with my kids, I wanted to grow my business exponentially, so I wrote all that down and started to write them and repeat them every single day. For a few days, maybe even a week and then my subconscious would start feeding me every reason in the book why I should stop this foolishness right now. We also learned that the reasons for this were two fold

1. Because we don't really Believe what we are telling ourselves in our affirmations, our subconscious fights back and change doesn't happen instantly, so before the affirmations have a chance to stick, we give up on them. This was covered in Part 1, and

2. We don't really know how to handle negative situations or how to put the brakes on a negative tailspin, so when we start feeling this way, we abandon our affirmations because if they were working we wouldn't feel this way, right!

It's a hard thing, sometimes a really hard thing to turn around negativity in real time. I used to have a saying back before I learned better, and that was - "I've earned this depression and I'm going to wallow in it for awhile." What a ridiculously negative thing to say, but I said it a million times. But the Law of Attraction teaches us that what we think about the most is what we attract into our lives. If you are thinking negative thoughts all the time, stuff to give you more negative thoughts is sure to come your way.

On the other hand, your true desires will come to you faster if you can focus on them with emotion and feeling. So it would stand to reason that you need to be able to recognize when you are not focusing with good emotion and feeling and be able to turn it around at the drop of a hat, if you truly want to materialize your desired outcome, doesn't it?

A lot of the Law of Attraction teachers stress that you need to CHANGE the way you think. Easier said than done. They recommend affirmations - we've already been down that road - or great books to read, or meditations (which I love) but it's not always convenient to find quiet space and time RIGHT NOW when you need them. All of these are great long term strategies, but it's rare to be in the middle of a crisis and be able to meditate or read a book.

In times like this, you can't wait for the right quiet moment to come along to work on your feelings later. You need something to grab onto RIGHT NOW, in the very moment that you realize the tailspin is starting. You need to have a tool available to you that will literally turn your emotions around, just like flipping a switch on and off. That's what you need to find.

I'm sure that sounds a little crazy to some people, because we are so used to letting the circumstances of our lives dictate how we feel, and we feel powerless to anything but ride the storm out in despair. But what I am suggesting to you is that you start thinking right now, while you are reading this, how you might handle yourself the next time a crisis comes up that puts you in a tailspin. What could you say or do or picture in your mind that would turn it around. Get something stuck in your head. Something you can do on autopilot. Plant a switch there in your mind that you can reach out and flip the minute you recognize that "Oh Boy, here we go again." Maybe a picture of puppies or a chant or a little song or something that your 'Belief Detective' won't recognize as an affirmation. Song lyrics are non-threatening because you don't have to believe the words - it's just a little old song after all.

So, don't wait until the next time something blindsides you to figure out your tool might be. Think about it right NOW! Be prepared. You don't really want to go to the Pity Party anymore, so be ready.

About the Author

Debbie Thomas brings you AttitudeZapz! Affirmation Jingles. These catchy little jingles with affirmations built right in will stick in your head and help keep you positive and motivated on the path to achieving all your dreams.

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