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submitted: Aug 4th 2008 | by: JustinKrawl | Total views: 1 | Word Count: 576 | |

When you are dating someone you have to be ready for anything including the good and the bad. One of those things that you need to be ready for is what to do when the relationship ends. Do you go on with your life as if nothing has happened or do you do whatever is needed to get your ex girlfriend back.

The first thing to do is keep communicating with her - if you aren't talking there is no chance of getting back together. By discussing the problems of the past you can avoid these same issues now. You also can discuss where both or you see the relationship going in the future.

If you want to win back your ex girlfriend, one of the very first things you must do is reflect on the reasons why your relationship came to an end in the first place. Thinking about the causes will be useful because these issues will not magically go away. If these issues are not resolved, they will reemerge and history will repeat itself.

Think about it - if she was unhappy about things before is she going to be ready to start up the relationship again without an expectation of change? The first thing she will want is for you to work on the things that went wrong.

Keep in mind that winning your ex girlfriend's heart back requires you to be truthful with yourself. You must be willing to understand what she was telling you and what she is saying now about her feelings and thoughts. You should be willing to work at compromising as well.

This is what being in a relationship should entail. If you are able to recognize your weaknesses and if you are willing to work on these problems prior to getting back together, your ex girl may be willing to rekindle the relationship and give you another chance. However, there is no real promise because your ex girl may not have the same feelings about you at this point in time.

Input and suggestions from others that you are close with and trust can be helpful, although it may necessitate that you face some cold hard truths about yourself before you can begin to understand where the help lies in not-so-pleasant to hear words. Family and friends may have some advice that could be helpful in mending your relationship as those closest to you are often capable of pointing out the things in you that could use some improvement. No doubt, though not pleasant to hear, some of the views you will receive will be filled with truth, and understanding this can help you decide what you want to do from here.

All this effort should get your ex girlfriend appreciate your efforts. By looking at the problems of the past and being willing to work on them you will be able to work on an even better relationship the next time.

Even if this plan does not work for getting your ex girlfriend back it may help you in all future relationships. Chances are that if this girl had issues with things the next one may have the same problems. Step back and look at the relationship with out the rose colored glasses of your perceptions and be willing to see it as everyone else say things. Remember, the next relationship may be the one that you want to last for life.

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