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submitted: Jul 9th 2008 | by: BedeTNicholson | Total views: 1 | Word Count: 507 | |

Discover the mysteries of love in a relationship

Being in a relationship isn't just about getting married and having kids. It's about love and companionship. However when you were growing up thats probably as good an explanation you got for men and women being together. The old birds and the bees story. Of course as we mature, we soon realise that is not the case but we are still none the wiser in the ups and downs that being in a relationship can bring. You will have so many questions, is he the one? Is this just physical or is this love? None of the more popular sources that people seek advice from seem to help either. With the abundance of happily ever after romantic movies and music videos. Over the next few paragraphs I will disect two very common views about finding the right person for a relationship. I have chosen two entirely different tradtions but both show the importance of not following any rigid structure about how to make your relationship work.

When two become one!

One of the oldest traditions that is still very common today is the idea of a soul mate. Very popular in christianity, the idea is that two people share the same soul and love is infact this single soul living in two bodies being brought together. The main concept is that the meeting of these two souls to become one is the utmost form of a relationship. There are both pro's and cons to this soul mate view. The pro's being that while searching for your soul mate you are actually searching deep within yourself. Therefore creating a better understanding of who you really are. The cons being that no relationship can last for all time and the realisation of which can be quite a come down.

Relationships that are pre-arranged

The second tradtion I am going to mention is that of an arranged marriage. Lets not confuse this with forced marriage. Arranged marriages occur with the general agreement of all members of the family. This type of relationship involves no getting to know one another before embarking on a life together. Instead partners love for each other is said to grow day by day. Again there are both positives and negatives from this. The concept that partners love will grow can be very healthy and stop any misinterpreted hopes of grand romantic gestures etc that are shown to us in the movies. The negatives of this though are that unfortunately some parents use this as an opportunity for their own gains in family politics and do not have their childs best interests at heart.

What can we learn out of these relationships?

From looking at these two examples, we can see that love doesn't have to be like it is in the movies. It can be just as succesfull and happy and if you can clear your minds of these ideals then maybe our presumtions about the way love should be will disappear and we will no longer feel like we are being left out.

About the Author

Bede Nicholson is a talented clairvoyant psychic. Bede is available for any type of relationship advice daily and is highly regarded as an expert in this category not only by his colleagues but also his clients.

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