Article Advise

submitted: Jul 29th 2008 | by: ErikJ.Michaels | Total views: 1 | Word Count: 546 | |

It may not sound like something you'd expect to be a successful strategy for getting your ex back, but it works really well to cut off all contact with your ex for about a month after the breakup. This has a number of good reasons behind it, and here are just a few.

1) Being in each others' faces right after a breakup is bound to cause some friction. When emotions are flaring up and everything is out of control, it's easy to say the wrong things and make it much harder to recover from this. Cutting off contact with your ex gives you time to cool down, and serves as a kind of damage control to keep you from accidentally making things worse.

By the time the month is over, everyone's temper should have cooled off, and some real thinking to have started. A calmer head and a willingness to work on things is far more likely, and far more beneficial to the process of fixing your relationship and getting back together.

2) Just because you're not actively fighting, don't think this doesn't apply to you. Even the nicest post-breakup relationship needs to have a break in it if you ever want to rekindle old feelings. If you two are still together after the separation, it'll be like you never did break up and your ex won't feel any need to get back together.

You don't know what you have until it's gone, and you can't miss it if it's still there. Neither can your ex! By forcing him to live without you for a month, completely without you, he has to come to terms with the consequences of his decision. Often, the reality of being completely without you will soften him up to the idea of a second try.

3) Another benefit of being apart is that you have some time without pressure to organize a plan and figure out exactly what you need to do to get him back. Without him right up in your face, it's easier to think and make decisions based on what your reasoning tells you, and not what your heart forces you to do.

People in this situation can act really oddly, and to get the results you want you may not be able to just naturally come to the right choices. You have to have a plan, or you're shooting in the dark and will probably end up hitting yourself in the foot. This freedom of time and space will let you reason out a plan that will actually work, rather than just doing whatever feels right (since it's often actually the wrong idea).

Any person fresh out of a breakup with the intention to get her ex back should take this advice seriously. You've seen a few of the reasons, so I'm sure you understand the benefits of this separation...actually doing it can be hard. It's tough to be apart from the person you care for, but in some ways that's what you're banking on. Just rest assured that this will help, and when you get through it you'll find it much easier to find happiness again with your ex. I wish you the best of luck.

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