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submitted: Aug 25th 2008 | by: ErikJ.Michaels | Total views: 1 | Word Count: 640 | |

Today's world looks like a bad one for relationships. It seems like everywhere you look, couples that were once so close and happy are fragmenting and going their separate ways. Every couple has their own reasons for breaking up, but there are 6 in particular that usually have something to do with it, and you can help to keep your relationship from going the way of theirs by taking these 6 problems into consideration.

1) Cheating. It's, in my opinion, the worst possible thing somebody in a relationship can do. It doesn't just break your partner's heart, it breaks the trust they had in you as well...and even if you can mend your partner's heart and save your relationship, chances are you'll never have that trust again. Do everybody a favor and keep your pants on...don't cheat, one night of fun could mean two lifetimes of heartache.

2) Your partner has emotions, and those emotions need support. Traditionally it's more women who complain of their guys not being sensitive enough to their feelings, but guys aren't stone cold rocks either. Always try to listen to your partner, and make sure that he/she knows quite well how much his/her feelings mean to you.

3) Everybody knows that no relationship goes on for very long without the occasional fight...but it's important to not get too fired up in these conflicts. A bad temper and refusal to calm down and listen is the absolute of all the WRONG ways to handle fights. Take things with as level a head as you can muster, and try to address real problems rather than petty squabbles and gripes. Make your fights productive, not destructive.

4) Movies have made it seem like it's only ever girls who get too controlling, and in fact film has made it even seem funny, but the truth is that both guys and girls can become overly demanding and controlling of their partners...and it's no laughing matter, as anyone who's been in that kind of relationship can tell you. If you don't have trust, you don't have anything...and if you keep hounding your partner about what goes on every minute of every day, you won't have him or her either.

5) A lot of relationships these days end because one or both people just gets bored from a lack of spontanaeity and fun. This is really sad to me, because people who are so in love should never get bored of the object of that affection. If a relationship isn't kept alive with good clean fun and being together isn't the joy it should be, there's something wrong. No relationship should just "peter out" because you two don't do anything together anymore...even if you're both busy, you should be able to find time to spend with the one you love.

6) Your partner may not leave you because you constantly pop your shoulder or fidget with anything you can get your hands on, but a slew of constant annoying habits can really raise the pressure point in a relationship to the point of explosion. Usually it takes a lot of irritation of this kind to cause real damage, but for crying out loud try to get ahold of yourself. Everyone has a few annoying habits, but if they really bother your partner try to break yourself of them.

There are a lot of things that can contribute to the "demise" of a relationship, and these are really just a few of them...but by thinking this way you should have a good shot at identifying any of the things that are really hurting your relationship...and if you're in the middle of a breakup, then addressing problems like these could really help your chances of getting through it with your partner still by your side!

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