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submitted: Aug 25th 2008 | by: ErikJ.Michaels | Total views: 1 | Word Count: 537 | |

Anybody who says that the time right after a breakup is easy is lying to you...its a trapfilled whirlwind of emotional chaos and it sucks no matter who you are. There are so many questions about where you should go from here, it makes your head spin. One of the first questions you probably think of is what to say to get him back...and the surprising answer is simple: NOTHING!

With all the crazy feelings and desperation flying around, it is really easy to mess up your situation even more by staying in contact with your ex and accidentally flying off the handle with an outburst that you later realize you really shouldnt have said if you wanted to get him back. There are ways to deal with this, however.

Often you will hear the very good advice to take a break from each other, to enter a term of no contact between you whatsoever. What is considerably less common is to hear exactly how long this period should last. I recommend you keep it up for about a months time, as that is generally about the right amount of time for anger to die down and the missing of each other to set in.

It is absolutely crucial, however, that you stick to this rule with no straying! A lot of people fall into one of the two following mistakes and break the No Contact rule, making it all the harder to regain the respect and affection of your ex:

1. Drunk Dialing. This occurs most often when its late at night, you have had a couple drinks to ease the loneliness, and you soon find that the alcohol does little to dull the pain inside. The drinks can affect your judgement and amplify your feelings of sadness until you give in and dial your ex boyfriends number without really even knowing what to say, and what follows is the most embarassing half conversation you have ever had.

2. Text Message Terrorism. Being cut off from the one you love can make a person really desperate to win her ex back...so much so that without thinking of how it appears, she starts bombing him with an onslaught of messages, phone calls, and emails that only result in her looking like a head case. You dont want to ruin how your ex sees you, so stop yourself whenever you start to get the urge to do this.

Falling victim to these two errors can have a devastating impact on your efforts to get your ex back. Avoiding these mistakes will be extremely beneficial to you as you try to put together a plan for getting him back once and for all.

Never forget that the best purpose of this time apart is not just to keep you from messing up your case further, but to allow you time and space to think. Devising a plan to get your ex back is far more effective than just winging it, as human nature tends to lead us in the wrong direction when it comes to this. Having an underlying strategy for this whole process will make your efforts a lot more effective.

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