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submitted: Aug 13th 2008 | by: RicardodArgence | Total views: 1 | Word Count: 427 | |

The first step to winning over an ex is to figure out why they dumped you in the first place. A lot of the time it was because your ex couldn't (or didn't want to) put up with certain things you did anymore.

If this sounds like your own breakup, then you have to accept it and move on. You'll have to single out and eliminate those behaviors, promising never to start them again. Words mean little to former significant others, they need to see the "I've changed" in your actions.

For starters, your ex lover will never think you're telling the truth. Let's accept it, no one changes completely in one night. Second chance given to your ex, they need to belive that the change is real and lasting.

You need to be able to provide solid proof to your ex that you are making a genuine effort to change and be a better you. For instance, reading books, researching for help online, taking classes or even therapy. The only way you can do this is if you do are in fact making a genuine effort to change. If you really want a second chance with your ex you will be more than willing to do this.

If you just put on a show but the change doesn't go deeper than the surface, you may get a second chance but it's guaranteed not to last long. When your old relationship problems crop up, and you know they will, your ex will once again decide to end the relationship. They will feel tricked, betrayed and foolish. Once again, you will find yourself saying, "I want to get back together with my ex." You had an opportunity and you wasted it.

The other reason is more important than getting a round two with your ex, and that is making change for yourself. The issues that created tension between you and your ex are probably causing friction with other people as well, such as your family, friends, and coworkers. For example, insecurity and poor self-esteem can bring on jealous feelings as well as cause problems on the job, in friendships, or even in family relationships.

By dealing with negative behaviours and emotions for your own sake you will end up with a healthier, happier and more attractive you ? someone who is far more likely to get a second chance with their ex, and get them back for keeps. Your ex will have more respect for you and your efforts than if they were simply part of a master plan to get a second chance.

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So there you have it. Three powerful steps to get your ex back. Recapture the magic of that moments with the one you love.

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