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submitted: May 6th 2008 | by: PamBaldwin | Total views: 3 | Word Count: 463 | |

First you have to ask yourself (before you wonder how to get the second date): do I want the second date? If the person seems normal and likeable and you feel you have an emotional connection, the answer is probably "yes." The thing is, if you seemed the same way, the answer would probably also be "yes" if you asked for that second date.

If you're coming from a dating site, your first meeting is really the "second date." Dating websites let you get to know each other before you see face to face, and getting to know each other a little is the purpose of a first date. How to get the second date is the same as getting the first meeting.

The number one trick to getting to second date is just being yourself. Being calm allows your date to get to know the real you. If you are nervous and stammering that's not the real you and could spoil your chance for a second date. Be self confident is an extremely attractive quality to other people and makes other people want to be around you. Your date should be able to know you as your close friends know you.

True confidence comes with experience and success. It's sort of paradoxical that you have to succeed before you can really succeed, but you can always do the actor's favorite trick: fake it until you make it. Work on projecting an air of confidence and holding in self-destructive things like "I boiled my last boyfriend's bunny." But don't cross the line into prat or schmuck.

That's normal, now here's likeable. Embrace your imperfections, accept them rather than defend them. Don't display them, but, rather, if they show up, smile and acknowledge it with a little humor to show you know it's unusual. If the other person won't accept that, you probably don't really want another date with them.

Don't always expect fireworks with the first meeting. Emotional connections are easily spotted but not always so easily forged. If you and your date make eye contact with ease and have aspects in common then you know you are developing one.

Ending the evening at the high point is crucial in getting the second date. This leaves your date wanting to spend more time with you. That right there is the true key to getting the second date.

Don't be so afraid of making a mistake that you make up lame excuses to leave when it's going good either. This can make you seem uninterested. Set a time limit for your date and stick to it. If it's going extraordinarily well then stick with it as long as you can.

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