How to Get A Clean Slate With Your Ex

When you have just been broken up with your ex, you find yourself with a lot of questions. What do I do now? How do I fix this? CAN I even fix it, or is all hope lost? Well, rest assured...all hope is NOT lost. This is a completely fixable situation if you know what you are doing, and I am here to help you out in that regard.

To start us off, ask yourself a question: what is it that led to this? You need to come to the understanding that whatever it was that made the relationship go downhill, it has now fallen to you to fix it. Your ex fixed it for himself by cutting you out, so if you want him back you are going to have to figure out a way for things to work...its no fun that you have to be the fallguy, but that is the way it is. Dont expect this to be as simple as one apology, it is going to take a little work.

So I have written this up for you, a quick list of some things you can do to wipe the chalkboard clean and start fresh. Utilizing these ideas will help you immensely in keeping from antagonizing your ex with common mistakes and making him more likely to reject any attempts to get back together.

1) Cut off contact, for about a month. So soon after a breakup, there is bound to be a lot of emotion flaring up and flying around, and things can be said that will never stop haunting you. Giving your ex some space gives him time to cool off and time to clear his head...gives him a chance to miss you.

2) Keep from making the classic and most common breakup mistakes: Drunk Dialing and Text Message Terrorism. Late-night, alcohol-induced loneliness could hurt your chances just as much as a bombardment of constant messages, calls, or emails. These mistakes not only defeat the point of not contacting him, they also shatter any decent image of you he may have had and drive him mental trying to avoid you...neither of which is a good thing if you want him back.

3) Be sure to have a plan, its absolutely critical! Nobody is born prepared to handle a breakup without any forethought or rehearsal...we all need some kind of organization and strategy or else we will just end up sabotaging our own efforts by not knowing what to do in a given situation. Make good use of your separation, and plan your method for getting him back. In a few minutes, I can help you with that.

The no contact rule is for more than just to make sure you dont end up hurting your case even more, its also to help you find time to organize yourself in more ways than just building a plan. Its clear that the relationship had problems, it would not have ended otherwise...so make good use of your time and address any issues that you have control over. Putting forth that effort will prove a good investment in the long run.

Remember that you will have to do some work on this, it wont just fix itself. An apology and a kiss wont solve these problems, so you need to solve them yourself. Having a plan makes it all the easier because you know what to expect and how to deal with it. I wouldnt advise for anyone to try to get your ex back without at first thinking it through and coming up with a strategy to accomplish it.

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