If He Withdraws - Try This

Picture this achingly familiar scenario: You have been dating a great guy, you have a close relationship, things are going well. Soon though, he starts to withdraw, gets distant, does not call or come around. Eventually he gives you the "I'm not ready" speech, or "Its not you, it's me", etc. Did you take notice, though, of what you did when you first realized he was withdrawing? Did you know that women normally exhibit 1 or more of 5 behaviors? Check this out

One of the things women do to keep a man from withdrawing is to try to be his friend. You try to be helpful, "guy-like" and supportive, all the while thinking that he will soon realize how great you are.

Or, you may try to make him jealous by telling him you are dating other people, even if you are not. You may also just go on a date with a guy not because you like him, but in order to the one you love to notice, be jealous and want you back.

You might also pretend that he is not hurting you by withdrawing, and that a casual relationship is fine. Of course, you will still have sex with him to keep him coming over, but you mask your hurt and never let him see it.

You could also give him an ultimatum - guilt trip him or get angry with him and tell him to man up and get into the relationship. You are thinking that he will soon realize just how happy and content he really is and then happily ever after will follow.

Lastly - you may try to compliment him, baby him and serve him in any way you can think of - going way out of your way to do things for him - again, in hopes that he will see how he cannot live without you.

ALL women do these things at one time or another. It is so strange, too, because these things do not work! Ever see hordes of dead frogs on a road on a rainy night? Same concept - others go before us and die a miserable death, but we hop out on the same road into the same traffic thinking, well, it will work for me. ThenSQUASH!!!

Well - what does work then? The problem is there is no magic cure. There is no fairy dust, no pill, no instant fix in a sentence or two that is going to cure it. What WILL work, however, is to start doing the things that make a man feel a natural and lasting attraction toward you.

You need to begin to understand what creates natural attraction, and what maintains it in healthy, stable relationships, and bring that into your own relationship. In other words... the biggest challenge most women run into when it comes to "breaking through" to men and getting past the surface dating stuff and into a real relationship with a real man is not being able to see past their own MINDSET and the approach they've been using that hasn't worked.

Dr. Phil always says that change starts "with you". Learn how your mindset effects the interpretation of things that happen within your relationship, and begin becoming aware of what you need to do to effect positive change in your own domain.

When you become able to create natural and lasting attraction in your own relationship, you will see your relationship begin to really bloom - becoming richer, fuller and more meaningful with each passing day as your attraction and bond grows deeper. Do yourself and your partner a favor and learn today what creates this beautiful foundation for a relationship.

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Christian Carter Teaches Women aAbout Natural and Lasting Attraction

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