Article Advise

submitted: Aug 25th 2008 | by: ErikJ.Michaels | Total views: 1 | Word Count: 549 | |

There are a lot of things that can go wrong when you are fresh out of a breakup and desperate to get your life back on track. Most of these harmful behaviors can be fixed or balanced out if you can just identify them and stop them immediately. Once you get out of your own way, the path to recovery can be very simple. Here are a few of the mistakes you could be making right now.

1) Drunken Dialing - Alcohol is never a solution to your problems, but it can help to dull the pain so its not surprising that a lot of people drink during a heavy breakup. Unfortunately, this can lead to Drunk Dialing, when you are so depressed and had so much to drink that a late-night phone call to the ex actually starts to sound like a good idea.

Regardless of how clear it is by the sober light of day that this is a really bad idea, it still happens and can be easy to fall to when you feel so heartachingly lonely and depressed. My best advice is that if you drink you should try to keep it in moderation so that you still have your full faculties...I know it kind of defeats the purpose of drinking during depression, but alcohol isnt going to solve your problems anyway.

2) Text-Message Terrorism - Kind of like Drunken Dialing without the alcohol...this is when you attack your ex with wave after wave of phone calls or text messages, all trying to win him back or convince him of how much you care about him. His phone is cluttered with message after message, and never stops ringing.

Even if this doesnt sound like you, sometimes the stresses pile up and it just seems like your only choice. Know though, that this is not romantic or dedicated, its harassment. Not only will this behavior hurt your position and make you look weak and desperate, it will also get your ex so angry or tired of hearing from you that you will push him away and risk losing him forever.

3) The Endless Slump - Allowing yourself to become so depressed that you can barely force yourself to get out of bed in the morning is NOT the ticket to winning your ex back. It can be hard to cope with breakup pain, but letting it get to an extreme such as this will not just hurt you, it will destroy you.

You cannot let this happen to you. Time is not on your side if you just waste it sobbing on your couch watching daytime TV and alienating yourself from your friends, family, and job. You could lose so much with this kind of slump, that it can wreck your life. All you can do is drudge ahead and force yourself to overcome this...the cost of not doing so is too much to have to pay.

These three things are all far too common, and they can seriously damage your life and your chances of finding happiness again with your ex. If you find yourself doing them, stop at once. Recovery is definitely possible, you just need a plan of action and the will to carry it out!

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