When All You Date Are Jerks: What to Do

We've all got dating patterns and we are all frustrated the same. Why do I always date the same guy, you ask yourself. Why am I reminded of my dad with every boyfriend? How come the type of guy with really spiky hair is the only type that approaches me?

You continue to be the same type of person and so you date the same type of guy. Whatever it is about you that attracts jerks needs to be discovered and then changed, if you don't want to date them.

Now don't get me wrong, people are just big, huge jerks sometimes. But we're not talking about them. We're talking about you. Here are three steps you need to follow to stop your jerk-dating pattern.

Ask a Friend: First Step

If you've dated the same type of loser more than once, go to your most honest friend and ask why they think that is. Listen to what they tell you, really.

Be Single: Second Step

For awhile you need to decide to be single. You are truly single during this time so date yourself. Get to know what it is that makes you and learn what makes you tick. Think about what you need to be happy and what it is you're really looking for. Figure it out and once you do, write it down, keep it in your bag, and read it every day.

Third Step: Dating the Antithesis

Do yourself a favor and when you feel ready to date, date someone that is nothing like your ex. So you can get a taste for what is out there, seek out someone that is different. You might be surprised to find that there are all kinds of people that you connect with, even if you don't think they're your "type."

With self-reflection and time you won't date anymore jerks. The first step is admitting you have a problem, like all challenges we face.

About the Author

Author Sara Musfeldt's website DatingTales.net is filled with dating stories, and she also provides an online dating guide full of online dating tips.

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