Article Advise

submitted: Aug 23rd 2008 | by: MarcSandford | Total views: 1 | Word Count: 450 | |

You've broken up with your ex but since that day you've experienced nothing but regret. If she also had regrets about the break up, then winning her back would be much easier. But asking her outright may be too chancy, so perhaps a little subtlety is required here.

First, you should study the conditions that led to the break up. Were these circumstances extreme? If the troubles were over little things that ultimately blew up into something big, she'll likely want to come back after some cooling off. It's not so clear-cut if the break up were more hostile in nature and came about over more important issues. If this is your situation, then you'll have to look for signals from your ex that she wants to come back.

1.) Is she having adjustment troubles? If so, the relationship is still a big part of her life. For her, the break up is still causing pain.

2.) Does she prefer to stay friends with you? This signals a desire to keep a connection with you. Remaining friends with her is very advantageous. It keeps a channel of communication open. Sooner or later, you'll be able to use this to get her back.

3.) Does she voice regret over her conduct during the breakup? This suggests a need to make things right.

4.) Does she tend to send compliments your way when you converse? Any compliment no matter how indirect is important.

5.) Is there anyone new in her life? If there's been no relationships since the break up, maybe it's too difficult to let go of the old times she had with you. Perhaps no one else can take your place.

6.) Has she kept the lines of communication open? Put differently, both of you readily communicate back and forth.

7.) Do her eyes and body language reveal anything? If there's still a love interest, her brows will slightly lift and her eyes will widen upon detecting your presence. You should also look for dilated pupils. Likewise, look for prolonged eye contact during conversation and small adjustments to her hair when she first sees your presence.

8.) Mirroring is also a big giveaway. When she unconsciously imitates your body language or your mood, she's mirroring. Other things she may mirror include the rhythm, loudness and tone of your speech.

9.) Does she use the word "you" a lot in her speech? If so, she is speaking in the second person which is a more intimate way to communicate.

10.) Does she still do a lot of the little things for you that she did in the past? She certainly wouldn't do this if she didn't like you.

Hopefully some of these signs apply to your case. If so, your outlook is good.

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