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submitted: Sep 9th 2008 | by: MarcSandford | Total views: 2 | Word Count: 419 | |

When you've recently broken up with your ex, your whole system is suffering a lot of emotional stress. Nature has structured our brains so that intense stress causes us to act first and think later. Sadly, this doesn't work so well when we want to get our ex back.

Unless you're an expert on dealing with break ups, your instincts are going to lead you in the wrong direction. Heated emotions will cause bad judgement which will result in lousy decisions. Simply being aware of the usual mistakes that people make and keeping a clear head will start you off on the right foot.

1.) Threatening your ex is a strategy that isn't going to be effective anytime soon. The majority of people respond by getting angry and resentful. Getting someone to want you is all about attraction while threats are coercive and repugnant.

2.) You should never do any begging or pleading with her. This is only going to diminish you in her eyes because it places you in a very weak position. There isn't a thing enticing about seeming pathetic and desperate.

Don't forget that maturity, confidence and strength are masculine qualities that the ladies like. Pleading is frequently shown in Hollywood as a very romantic and moving gesture. But in the real world, you'll just get contempt from her.

3.) Pouring a lot of attention on your ex right after a break up may seem the right thing to do when you're panic stricken. However that's because a panic state fills you with an extreme need to fix the problem right now at any cost. To her, you'll come across as desperate and even a little crazy.

So you should probably lay off all of the late night calls and text messaging. And to allow the circumstances as well as yourself, some time to cool down.

4.) Don't get resentful and angry with your girlfriends family and friends. It is only natural that they'll side with her and do some talking about you. Keeping the peace with them will make your attempts at getting her to come back much simpler.

Don't forget that half of the battle is avoiding all of the mistakes that will damage your odds at getting her back. You can do this by not permitting yourself to be overcome by anger, panic, or the other extreme emotions that will usually happen during a break up. Avoid any of the thoughts and situations that can arouse these destructive emotions and start working your plan to win your ex back.

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