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submitted: Sep 5th 2008 | by: RuthHazlett | Total views: 1 | Word Count: 526 | |

You want to know how to get your ex back. After all this time, that one special person who meant the world to you has packed up and left. Now you're alone and miserable. It's time to do some soul searching and plan your course of action.

The first thing is to determine what went wrong. Don't confuse this with what actually happened. There is an underlying cause that created the situation that occurred. It is important to know that if you want to get your ex back. For example, let's say your ex left you for someone else. That's what actually happened. You need to figure out WHY it happened - what went wrong that caused them to seek another lover. Understanding this is key to determining what to do.

Now is the time for some serious thinking. Find a quiet place where you can be completely alone and feel relaxed, and start thinking back to when you first met.

Focus on what attracted you to each other. As your relationship continued, what were the reasons you stayed together? It would be most helpful to make a list of the things about your ex that you admired most, and the things you did that resulted in positive reactions from them. As the two of you grew to where you were sharing your innermost thoughts and feelings, what was it about you that appeared to please them the most?

Once you have relived the early days in your mind, you should be able to see yourself as the person your ex was attracted to. And if you're completely honest with yourself, you'll probably realize that that person is not the you of today. This is not really a bad thing; after all, most people do change at some point in time. But it might give you a hint as to why your ex left. Since you are no longer that person, your mate will seek those qualities in someone else.

Let's focus once more on the example where your ex left you for someone else. When you were in those put your best foot forward days of dating, making your partner happy was your number one priority. You were more than likely attentive, caring, loving and romantic - always making sure your significant other felt like the center of your universe.

But as time went on and the newness wore off, you started taking your ex for granted. It happens all the time. The pressures of day to day life seem to get in the way, and the ecstatic feelings of your romantic moments together wane. Just like the old song The Thrill Is Gone. But don't feel too guilty - it usually happens with both partners.

Everyone has a need to feel loved. Everyone wants to feel important to the one they love. In order to get your ex back and make them stay, you need to recreate that aura of love, passion and desire that was there in the early days of your relationship.

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