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submitted: Aug 13th 2008 | by: JustinKrawl | Total views: 1 | Word Count: 621 | |

As hard as you try to avoid it, you're bound to experience a breakup eventually. This is heart wrenching when the man you just lost was the perfect guy for you, and all you can think about is getting him back. The situation varies, with some cases having perfectly clear reasons for him leaving, and others that you may never understand. Sometimes you may even leave Mr. Right, only to understand later the horrible mistake you made.

When you are pining over your lost love, it is difficult to think about anything other than how you can get him back. If this is truly what you want, take some time to think about how to accomplish your goal. The reason behind the breakup is the most important piece of information that you can have. Step back and look realistically at the big picture. Was it something that he did or said, or was it an action that you took? Was breaking up necessary or an overreaction, and on whose part? If either of you were controlling or abusive, or cheating or your partner, you may want to think over whether getting back together is really your best choice. Sometimes it truly is best to get over the heartache and move on.

If, however, you do realize that your breakup was a mistake and you are still in love with your ex, remember what it was that made him want to be with you when your relationship first started. Look at whether that quality is still there, or whether it has changed. If you are different now, this may be the reason he left. In this case, you may want to consider whether you are happier the way you are now, or whether you should go back to the way you used to be. All changes are not positive past a certain extent. One example of this is opening up to your partner. Sharing is a good thing, but sharing too much may be what has driven him away. You may want to be close, and to believe that if you truly love each other you will accept every detail about the other's life, but do you really want to know all the intimate details of his past?

Remember all the good times and use these memories to pull him back to you. Remind him of the happiness you shared together; he may miss it also. If there was an outfit or perfume that you remember he went crazy over, wear it again around him. Don't try to make him jealous, just use these reminders to awaken his memories and perhaps he will also regret that he is now missing out on having you in his life.

Be forthcoming with your feelings, too. Let him know how bad you feel that things didn't work out, and that you'd try your best if given another chance. This is not the time for playing games - a guy in his position will appreciate honesty more than anything else. Give him room to say his opinions about what went wrong in the relationship and whether he thinks the problem can be fixed.

These are great steps towards getting him back. Understand that it's not guaranteed, since you may not be able to change the way he feels. If he doesn't feel the same way as he once did, you don't want to be back with him anyways. Don't try to force the relationship, or you may push him away as a friend too. On the other hand, if he starts the relationship again and begins to take advantage of you, end it immediately.

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