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submitted: May 4th 2008 | by: AlexArcher | Total views: 5 | Word Count: 398 | |

Often, people who have an affair fail to consider the consequences of their behavior on others. Many of the people involved have children, and the effects of infidelity on family can be devastating. Although many people find this a reason to attempt to hide the fact of the affair, healing after an affair may require openness and honesty among all the members of the family unit.

Spousal trust is shattered in the face of an affair. When mistrust creeps into a marriage the first to notice are the children. Children need to be raised by two trusting parents and learn from that example. Being exposed to the opposite often leads to developmental issues.

Cheating within a marriage obviously leads to constant, sometimes vicious, fights. A myriad studies have illustrated the negative consequences arising from being raised within a household characterized by antipathy. Children are very perceptive and can sense even the smallest tension.

If both of the persons involved in an affair have children near the same age, this can be especially difficult. The problem is further compounded if the children attend the same school or church. The children who are friends with one another before the affair is discovered typically face compounded emotional hardships.

While being open and honest is the requisite first step in healing the relationship, it is not advised to share every graphic detail with children. Each family is unique, and you are the best judge of your child's level of maturity and ability to process information.

Objective and neutral parties can often be of value. Children are able to use an objective observer for candid discussions which can not be had with either given parent. This neutral person can often serve the role of a referee.

Many people find counselors, clergy and other experts very useful in providing information as well as mediation in some instances. Many marriages are saved with such assistance. But it is important to find counselors who have experience successfully helping to repair marriages. Infidelity causes damage like no other and often requires specialized advice.

Surviving an affair is not easy. Typically, however, both the injured person and the spouse having the affair continue to share a bond of love and attraction. Learning how to overcome the pain and strengthen the relationship after an affair can be challenging, but is definitely worth the time and energy required.

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