Article Advise

submitted: Jul 17th 2008 | by: AlexArcher | Total views: 1 | Word Count: 410 | |

When adults are unfaithful, it doesn't just affect them; it also affects their children. In fact, the effects may even be more devastating for the younger generation. Kids may blame themselves in the short term and also suffer from problems in their own relationsips in the long term.

Children may feel a sense of guilt for their parent cheating. Many times children will blame themselves for the problems of their parents because they think that their actions may be the cause of their parents. They can become confused, angry, sad, and distrusting.

Many children draw a strong sense of security from the relationship between their mother and father. When this relationship is negatively affected in any way, that sense of security is destroyed. As a result, many kids are plagued with behavior problems that stems from their fear of an uncertain future. Even the slightest hint of infidelity may cause a child to react in this way.

When an affair occurs, family dynamics also change. Siblings may act out against one another, often aggressively; and emotional detachment between family members is certain. Brothers and sisters may not trust one another, and they may also blame each other for what is going on.

The stability of a loving home disappears when someone cheats. Both parents may create a facade, but most children are capable of seeing the falsehood. This increases the overall level of stress. The attempts to make the situation better actually make it worse, leaving the children feeling unloved and vulnerable.

Children of unfaithful parents carry with them feelings of mistrust and jealousy into their own love relationships. They may suffer from the illusion that they are doomed to repeat their parents' patterns, or they may simply believe that they are immune from having a partner that will not do the same thing.

The ultimate sacrifice that an unfaithful parent might make is a total breakdown of their relationship with their child. Although emotional wounds might heal on the surface, the deep scars of anger and resentment tend to never go away. Children will more than likely carry these well into adulthood and will always have memories of what happened.

Even if the parents do choose to remain together, rather than going through a divorce which will cause even more damage to a child, there will always be that thought at the back of the child's mind: will they do this again. They continue to watch out for it and are always wondering if and when.

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