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submitted: Aug 25th 2008 | by: AlexArcher | Total views: 1 | Word Count: 518 | |

It isn't easy to survive infidelity, and everyone has to find their own way to overcome and move on. You will confront frustration, pain and grief in your own way, and your experience will no doubt be different than my own. Still, perhaps there are a few things we can learn from one another about how to endure when your partner cheats and dumps you.

Indulge yourself from time to time. Taking care of yourself is an important part of the healing process. It can be difficult to do this in a healthy way, because buying things and losing yourself in vices can get in the way of true coping and healing. But if you choose your moments, and pick events and objects of special significance, it can be very helpful. Things like jewelry and art don't have to be expensive, and yet can carry great positive meaning.

By holding onto and cherishing your values, you will remind yourself of your worth, even when you may not be feeling very high on yourself. You are still a lovable person who deserves happiness and a good relationship. For me, although I loved my ex, being with him forced me to compromise and lose part of my identity. I have regained that now.

Remember, when you are at a loss for what to do if your mate cheats on you, your mate was the dishonest one. Being dishonest, first of all, by breaking your trust but more importantly by not being truthful about how they felt in the relationship. Let truth come to you.

Enjoy the little things that you have gained because of your break up. I can remember well the joy of being able to buy foods that my ex-boyfriend hated and refused to have in the house, or decorating my home with all of the touches that he thought trivial. He preferred the smell of his old socks to my essential oils; now I can have the home I always wanted.

Don't let yourself become isolated. Turn to your closest friends and family and use them to keep you going through the toughest times. Don't be afraid to ask for help; this is what friendship and family are truly about. If you do not have a close network of people, or if this is something you lost in the break up, seek out therapy or a support group.

A break up can also be the start of new interests. Look into finding a new hobby, or joining a club. For me, it was knitting that became my new beginning. I joined a knitting circle and not only had the pleasure of learning a new craft, but also the joy of the friendships that grew up around my new hobby.

The loss of my relationship has brought about a new understanding of myself as I come to terms with my partner's infidelity. Surviving hasn't been easy, but it has opened up new opportunities and brought new joys to my life. Once you have gained some distance and perspective, use your new strength and insight to help someone else. This will help to complete your healing.

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