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submitted: Jul 17th 2008 | by: AlexArcher | Total views: 1 | Word Count: 415 | |

When adults are unfaithful, it doesn't just affect them; it also affects their children. In fact, the effects may even be more devastating for the younger generation. Kids may blame themselves in the short term and also suffer from problems in their own relationsips in the long term.

Children may feel a sense of guilt for their parent cheating. Many times children will blame themselves for the problems of their parents because they think that their actions may be the cause of their parents. They can become confused, angry, sad, and distrusting.

Many children get a sense of security from a strong relationship between their parents. Once their mother and father start exhibiting negative behavior towards one another, children may intentionally misbehave as they become insecure about their future. Even the possibility of an affair can be enough to affect the way a child acts.

The effects of infidelity on kids can also cause them to become detached from their siblings, even aggressive. This results from the lack of trust with one or the other of the parents. The child may blame their sibling or either parent, be it the unfaithful one or not. They wonder what the parent suffering from the infidelity may have done to cause it.

Infidelity can ruin family life at home. Often, parents attempt to put on masks to conceal their problems. However, children can see right through these, and things end up being even worse than before. An atmosphere of instability prevails and negates what the children need the most.

Many children whose parents have been unfaithful go on in life to have problems in relationships of their own. They may have ingrained feelings of mistrust and jealousy, which can affect their faith in their partner. They also may believe they are destined to suffer the same consequences as their parents.

Infidelity can also cause a relationship break between the parent and the child. They may feel anger towards them because they feel as if the parent did this to them, abandoned them. The wounds may heal but more than likely they will never completely heal. The child, even into adulthood, will always remember what happened and wonder.

Even in cases where a couple decides to move past an affair and avoid divorce, their children can still suffer emotional and psychological damage. Reminders and memories of the affair may always loom large, and the children may watch constantly for signs that infidelity may happen once again. It may not be a question of if, but when.

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