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submitted: Apr 29th 2008 | by: AlexArcher | Total views: 5 | Word Count: 472 | |

There are few things that have such potential for destroying a relationship as betrayal has. Affairs destroy trust and shatter hope. An affair is not only a physical betrayal, but it is also a emotional betrayal. Sex is never just sex. However, if the connection in the marriage is strong enough, even an affair can be overcome, and the marriage can become even stronger than it has ever been.

The most important thing to do as part of the recovery process is rebuilding trust. It will be an uphill battle for the person who had the affair to regain the trust of his or her partner, however, with enough accountability and transparancy this can be achieved.

Commitment and love will be questioned and this question needs to be addressed. Having your partner see these things will help your relationship. Trust is not easy to rebuild, but this can be restored. Forgiveness will not be immediate and reconciliation will not come quickly. The very minimum allotted time frame for couple dealing with infidelity is 18 months and quite possibly it will take longer, but this process cannot be hurried.

One of the main things to be learned will be to compromise. This must be done in order to continue in the recovery process. A new and better relationship must be created and habits and attitudes will need to evolve.

It is very trying to get over the mental anguish caused by infidelity and the relationship will stand little chance if this cannot be overcome.

During recovery, there may be quite a while with no physical intimacy. But as you go through that period, remember that the basis of your relationship is not sex, it is the melding of hearts and lives. Focus on the other aspects of your relationship. Learning to see and appreciate other facets of your mate may be the best thing you've ever done to strengthen your relationship. Above all, be patient. Better the long awaited but sincere reconciliation than the hasty reconciliation that falls apart.

Even with all the strides taken to repair your relationship, it still may not be able to be saved. Your partner may not even think it is worth saving. The recovery process, however, can make your marriage even stronger than it was before and the person who had the affair may just realize what they wanted was at home waiting, but many trials must be passed before forgiveness can take place.

It is true that an affair can ruin a marriage, but if both parties wish to fight for their marriage, it can be done and may even become stronger. We, as humans, want to physically and emotionally connect with one another at a level that is deep, which is why striving to save what you have can bring you peace.

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