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submitted: Aug 20th 2008 | by: AlexArcher | Total views: 2 | Word Count: 522 | |

There is a lot to consider if you believe your spouse or significant other is being unfaithful. Infidelity brings up a lot of strong emotions, and may change your relationship permanently. It is key that careful reasoning and sound judgement guide your decision-making as you decide how to best act on your suspicions.

Some people have no tolerance for infidelity and decide on a divorce. Others want to work it out. Either way, the healing after an affair is a slow process that shouldn't be rushed. As a matter of fact, you may want to seek counseling whether you decide to work things out with your spouse or not. If you decide to leave the relationship, you will need counseling for yourself.

Few if any marriages are perfect, but often the problems mount and become cause for concern. Marriage counseling, in the context of infidelity, can help the partners work though the problems which may have led to the infidelity in the first place. Marriage counseling can also help each partner understand the effects their infidelity might have.

The effects of infidelity on marriages can result in the termination of the marriage in a lot of cases. Hence, this is a very delicate matter. You don't want to falsely accuse your spouse of cheating, but you also have a right to know if your spouse is being unfaithful. There are lots of signs of infidelity, but some may not concrete evidence that your spouse is cheating.

As relationships progress they are bound to change in some ways, however some changes might be regarded as suspicious. If your spouse is spending substantially less time at home or engaged in activities in which you don't participate, this could be an indicator he or she is being unfaithful. Another key sign is a decreased interest in intimate relations with you. While not certain, this sign alone is troubling and may be cause to visit a marriage counselor, even without proof of infidelity.

If your spouse is hanging out with a new group of people and you've been excluded from this group, it could possibly be a sign. One of the biggest signs of infidelity is if a person from the opposite sex is constantly calling your spouse or if you are receiving a lot of hang up calls at home.

The other side of infidelity is if you are considering being unfaithful yourself. Interest in romantic or sexual relationships outside of your marriage might be cause to evaluate problems which may have arisen in your marriage. Communication, perhaps facilitated by a marriage counselor, is a good way to head off these problems before they progress further. Infidelity is, in many cases, a point of no return in that it permanently damages or destroys the relationship.

The surest way to make bad or costly decisions is to make hasty decisions. How you deal with infidelity in a marriage can have lasting effects, and it is important to not make those decisions lightly. While your feelings are important to consider, the first thing you feel may not be what you should act on. Consideration of your options and careful reasoning are vitally important.

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