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submitted: Jul 28th 2008 | by: AlexArcher. | Total views: 1 | Word Count: 544 | |

No matter how friendly the institution occurs, divorce is a terrible experience. If children are caught in the middle of it all, the experience for them can be even worse. Many times, kids are left feeling as though they have been abandoned and can be marked emotionally for the rest of their lives as a result. A tough divorce can lead to poor emotional health later on in life, including depression and inability to have healthy relationships later.

Whilst divorce grabs the headlines for its financial impact especially on the husband, the human cost far outweighs the financial burden.In a case where children are involved the emotional cost can be severe.Fathers feel removed from their children and find it increasingly difficult to engage with their children and this separation can lead to depression as they try to identify their role as a divorced father.

The mother can often feel trapped and overwhelmed.Whereas previously the burden of rearing children was a shared experience where one partner leaned on the other for support, that safety belt has now been removed and mothers' can feel overstretched to provide the nurture that their children need in this most difficult of times. This often leads to feeling of resentment and misplaced anger.

With the children often being caught in the divorce without much knowledge of the events occurring, they can feel resentment towards the parents because their only perception is that they are responsible for breaking up the otherwise happy family. A poor divorce can result in immature or young children developing a negative view of their parents.

The children often feel incorrectly that they are to blame for the situation and can often feel rejected. They experience loneliness and anxiety and often previously outgoing children can withdraw emotionally and can feel awkward in social situations. They also find it difficult to engage emotionally with loved ones as the fear of further rejection stunts their emotional growth.

Beyond the children, though, the parents can feel emotional scarring if they are cheated upon while in the marriage. Feelings of rejection and distrust of significant others can result, and the person can feel like they're always going to be cheated upon. The partner that committed the infidelity can feel as though they're guilty of hurting someone to the point that they may never forgive themselves.

No one really makes the decision to get married with the idea that they will be divorced afterwords but divorce nevertheless is a real occurrence that affects people everyday. A good healthy divorce that has very little fighting or inconvenience to the family is the best way to do such a process, for the sake of everyone involved. No one comes out ahead as a result of a divorce, so keeping it friendly can make the process easier.

Divorce can be a way to end a bad relationship and begin a better partnership with another person that could last for the rest of your life. Although divorce isn't an easy thing to approach or go through with, it can be done without too much in the way of ill effects to the parties involved. If it is done properly, a divorce can be a way for two people to move on with their lives with minimal emotional impact on themselves and their families.

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