Unseen and True Cost Of A Divorce May Be Higher Than You Think
submitted: Jul 3rd 2008 |
by: AlexArcher |
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After the glow of the honeymoon fades and the chime of the wedding bells has faded away, a newly-wed couple has dreams of a life spent together, forever. Unfortunately, this fairy-tale happiness is not a guarantee, and affairs, money problems, or emotional distress can lead to one party or the other looking to a divorce as a solution.
These days, our society accepts divorce as an unfortunate but accepted reality of married life. While annulments have been around for centuries, divorces are different. Divorce is a way of ending a marriage, without the death of a spouse, while a more traditional annulment declared that a marriage was void from the beginning.
Some married couples mistakenly view divorce as a magic solution to their relationship problems. Yet in most cases this isn't so and more disturbing is that they often jump to divorce without knowing the high cost of divorce, financially or emotionally.
Many couples see divorce as quick and easily handled, but the reality is quite different; some divorces stretch out for a long time, with the average taking about two years.
The financial cost of divorce differs from cases to cases. Although, most lawyers would tell you that the cost of a one-day trial would be around $3,000. That's the just for the lawyers alone. If you think of tagging along expert witnesses, the fees would significantly over and above that.
What most divorce parties overlook is the unseen cost of the divorce. Separation means new rental or mortgage payments. New auto loans and other monthly living cost. Also, never forgot about new alimony and/or child support payment. It is best that you thoroughly prepare yourself for the cost of divorce, financially or emotionally or you will be in a deeper sink whole than first started.
Then there's the emotional cost of the whole ordeal that could lead to serious psychological problems. Divorce process encourages the focus of the past. Past mistakes, past problems and past disagreements. This diverts the attention of the present, resulting both parties slide to deeper anger and discontent with each other, reinforcing the problem rather than finding a solution.
One other misunderstanding people often have when they think of divorce is that they misappropriate the blame, faulting the other person, which leads to feelings of resentment and a victim mentality. This outlook can easily cause a person to feel helpless and even become clinically depressed.
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