Internet Dating Ads - How to Talk to the Opposite Sex!

As an Internet Dating Coach, I regularly review Online Personal Ads to see how men and women are promoting themselves. Often the ads are written so poorly, that it's no wonder why many people fail to attract the types of partners they're asking for. Men often write in a matter-of-fact manner - which is absolutely not the way to communicate with women! And the women's ads often come across as demanding - producing poor results - which ends up reinforcing their views that "all of the good men are taken."

Here's one example. This ad was submitted by a woman in her early 40's -

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"I love to talk about books that have struck you bizarre or interesting. I do want someone to hang out with, and must enjoy talking about politics, books, places and wine. Must love chocolate!"

Communication is apparently high up on this woman's priority list (how nice!) Whether "talking about everything" is also nice would depend, I suppose, on what "everything" might include. It's hard to say what she's referring to when she talks about "bizarre" books, although Stephen King novels come to mind for me. I'm not sure how many guys love chocolate, but for the sake of maintaining positive relationships, I imagine a lot of guys would go along with that one - assuming, of course, that "bizarre" books don't stand in the way first!

With an online dating ad like the ad above, I can only imagine the types of guys who'd reply!

Or check out this Internet Dating ad from a 29-year-old man who calls himself the Tattoo Teddy Bear:

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"i just want a good girl that knows how to treat a man with respect."

Short, sweet, and to the point, yes?

It's at moments like this when I can really understand why men and women just don't understand each other!

Which brings me to our first lesson of today: Always write your Online Dating ads like you're having a normal conversation with someone!

In other words, here's what NOT to do:

1. Never write an online dating ad like you'd write an advertisement for a newspaper.

2. Don't "talk down" to your readers.

3. Do not - under any circumstances - submit a 10 or 15-word ad for Online Dating!

Follow these guidelines instead:

1. Talk about yourself in terms of who you are as a person, what you enjoy doing on a date, and list some of your hobbies and interests.

2. Tell the reader (without bragging) how he or she will feel when they're with you. Put yourself in the mind and soul of your reader, and empathize with them. What are they thinking - and what might they be feeling - while reading your ad?

3. Mention some of your best inner qualities to motivate your readers to respond to your ad!

4. Why should your reader respond to your ad right now? Here's the place to motivate them!

5. Don't forget to spell-check your ad before you submit it!

By creating an honest and empathic dialog with your reader when writing your online personal ads, you'll be way ahead of most of your competitors for the attention of the women - or men - you'd like to hear from the most!

About the Author

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