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submitted: Aug 29th 2008 | by: MarcSandford | Total views: 1 | Word Count: 464 | |

When a storm strikes, disaster hits, or anything that's just plain bad happens, there will always be signs of warning. It's certainly a cliche to hear people say: "why didn't we listen to the warning signs". This is true of bridge collapses, storms, political events, and of couples breaking up.

Be warned, if you're a paranoid individual, forget that you ever saw this article. Please note that the points discussed here refer to changes in your partners behavior that wasn't there in the past. Also, the more signs that are true for your relationship the more likely a breakup is about to happen.

1.) Are you quarreling all day long, 7 days a week? The odd dispute once in a while is perfectly ok. But chronic fighting is very bad.

Threats and ultimatums frequently are employed to manipulate ones partner. This scheme exploits your insecurities and fears and make you feel uncomfortable. Again this is a very bad state of affairs for a couple to be in.

2.) Have you been relegated to the bottom of her priority scale? This means that the most insignificant thing in her life comes before you. For example, there's never any room in her busy social calendar to fit you in.

This is a very demeaning and painful situation to be stuck in. She has practically eliminated you from her life. Even though you haven't officially separated, you're pretty much there already.

3.) Are you finding that your very existence displeases her? Have her standards become impossible and she's always criticizing you about something? This means that she's building up a case to leave you and give you the blame for the breakup because you're not good enough.

4.) Does your girlfriend come across as distracted, distant, somewhere else? Perhaps she's apathetic and doesn't add much if at all to the conversation. This remote behavior is very common but when considered in addition to other signs of a breakup, it has significance.

5.) Is the love and affection that you give her not returned with equal enthusiasm. When you try to relate to her more, she pulls away from you? If this situation describes the two of you, a break up is in your future if nothing is done to fix the relationship.

6.) Has she lost enthusiasm for the favorite activities that you always did together? Perhaps she desires to do them alone or with a 'friend'. This signal is a warning of very deep problems.

Make sure that you only apply the above points to changes in your partners behavior. The odd personality quirk that is a permanent part of her make up would not count as a break up sign. Also make sure that you've ruled out more obvious explanations. Perhaps there's a problem at work that's gnawing at her which explains her current behavior.

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