How to Talk to Women (or Men) in Your Online Dating Ads

I'm an Online Dating Coach, and many of the ads I see on the Internet are shocking! There are some (often written by guys looking for women) who write their ads like they're trying to sell used furniture in the classified section of their daily papers! The women's ads are often just as bad - often containing very little substantial information - or the ads just come across as demanding.

Take a look at this example. This ad was designed by a woman in her early 40's -

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"I love to talk about books that have struck you bizarre or interesting. I do want someone to hang out with, and must enjoy talking about politics, books, places and wine. Must love chocolate!"

We can immediately see that this woman likes to communicate (and that's a good thing, yes?) and she also enjoys "talking about everything" - including "books that have struck you bizarre." (Are we talking about Stephen King novels here?) In addition to that, it would be great if you (as a guy) can talk about "politics, places, and wine" - but the main thing is that you love chocolate?

It's hard to imagine what sort of guy she'll attract with that ad!

Or - take a look at this online personal ad, from a 29-year-old guy who describes himself as a "Tattoo Teddy Bear" --

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"i just want a good girl that knows how to treat a man with respect."

Short, sweet, and to the point, yes?

It's at moments like this when I can really understand why men and women just don't understand each other!

One of the secrets to writing effective online personal ads is to write your ads just like you're having a real, live conversation with your reader.

Or to express things in terms of what NOT to do:

1. Never write an online dating ad like you'd write an advertisement for a newspaper.

2. Don't talk in a condescending manner. Be polite and treat everyone like your equal!

3. Never write a short (one or two sentence) ad. You just can't say enough in a short ad to really "sell" yourself properly!

Here's what you SHOULD do:

1. Talk about yourself in terms of who you are as a person, what you enjoy doing on a date, and list some of your hobbies and interests.

2. Give your reader a sense of how they will feel when you two are together on a date. Put yourself in the shoes of your reader. Be empathic, be sensitive to their needs, and try to anticipate what they might be thinking and feeling while reading your online personal ad.

3. Mention some of your best inner qualities to motivate your readers to respond to your ad!

4. Why should your reader respond to your ad right now? Here's the place to motivate them!

5. Don't forget to spell-check your ad before you submit it!

By following these tips and guidelines, you'll be on your way to a successful online dating campaign!

About the Author

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